For many people, ‘Tis the Season means ‘Tis the Season to be STRESSED! It can be very stressful to navigate all of the family responsibilities along with the extra responsibilities that come along with Thanksgiving and Christmas.
During the Holidays, most people will find that there are stressful events that are in our control and also some stressful events that are out of our control. There are many areas in everyday life that cause stress but here are a few areas that Stephanie and I believe are significant and can cause a high-level of stress during the Holidays.
- Family Dynamics
Shopping can be a big source of stress during the Christmas Season. We all know that the “Reason for the Season” is Jesus’ birth but let’s face it, in our consumer-minded culture – there are gifts to be purchased! As we have faced this upcoming Christmastime, do not wait until the last minute to do your shopping! When you have to go and fight the crowds as time draws closer to Christmas, it becomes an extreme source of stress for many! So Stephanie’s suggestion, Start NOW! Find the sales and be smart with your purchases and always keep yourself reflecting on the true meaning of Christmas; JESUS.
Navigating family during the Holidays can be tricky! No-one has come from a perfect family. And with family, there can be a lot of stress caused by past family events. This can include family members that are no longer with you during this season because they have passed away. These family members may have played a very important role in the Holiday Season in past years and there are strong memories that can be difficult to face while spending time with family.
Another big area of navigating our families is recalling and remembering past wounds in your life that involved family or particular family members. During these times of attending family gatherings, past feelings can have a tendency to resurface causing added stress that is undesirable. Although these events can give some insight into areas that you need to face and work through, the timing of which they present themselves can be extremely challenging.
Money has a tendency to be one of the biggest stressors in marriage period. During the Holidays, this can be heightened to whole new level. With a combination of overspending, buying too many presents, and piling up debt to attempt to please family, all add up to create un-needed stress to you and your immediate family. We suggest that you take this in consideration and plan your spending before you start the Christmas shopping.
We suggest finding a charitable cause to donate too during the Christmas Season. There are many ways that you can give during this time and we find that most churches have areas that they support for Thanksgiving or Christmas. One that we like to take part in is buying gifts for single mother homes that cannot afford to provide gifts during the Christmas Season. Every year our church home participate in the local community to provide these gifts to single parent homes and we find that it is a blessing to be a blessing to those in need.
Bryan & Stephanie
(To hear a detailed description of these three areas, watch the November addition of the Love and Learn Series hosted by Bryan and Stephanie Vignery. You can find the video by following this link: https://vimeo.com/300650646. To join in to the FREE Love and Learn Series the first Wednesday of every month, follow The Intentional Marriage on Facebook or Instagram.)
Bryan and Stephanie Vignery
Founders of The Intentional Marriage
Bryan is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Stephanie is a NASM Certified Lifestyle Accountability Coach.
Bryan has a thriving private counseling practice in the Kansas City area and is a founder of The Intentional Journey and The Intentional Marriage workshops. These workshops center around directing people toward a more authentic relationship with Christ. Many Pastors refer individuals and couples to Bryan for counseling and they also seek guidance from him on multiple occasions. He has directly impacted thousands of people’s lives over the past 20+ years.
Stephanie’s passion is to help people transform and shape their body, their mindset and ultimately helping people grow in their relationship with Christ. She is the author of “On A Fast Track With God”, a 40-day devotional. She also coaches women and co-facilitates multiple workshops with Bryan.
Together, Bryan and Stephanie have been called on a mission to restore hope in people’s lives by influencing, inspiring and impacting marriages! Their latest product is the popular online course, Building Marriages to Last. Since the day they met, they have known they were called to ministry. On their first date they shared childhood dreams of impacting marriages. Little did they know that years later the dream of The Intentional Marriage would become a reality.