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Get Out of the Game!

Life is filled with drama.

There’s drama in the workplace, drama in families, drama on social media. Everywhere we are surrounded by it. Some of us thrive on it.

I don’t know about you, but I get really tired of it!

Some of the coaching clients I work with have big-time drama going on with family members and co-workers. They have people in their lives who like to stir the pot and get the gossip chain rolling, use innuendo to start waves of distrust, and get deeply engrained in the comparison game. This kind of drama loves to play subtle, silly little games that drive wedges in relationships. Most of the drama has been going on for years and my clients are ready for it to end, so we have been working on ways to “ditch the drama” as my friend Cy Wakeman says!

Every time they get a text that has that snarky little “edge” to it that invites the drama to begin, simply repeat “get out of the game” and ignore it. When comments are made to others in the family with the hope that it will eventually get back to the person it was actually intended for, repeat to yourself “get out of the game” and combat the urge to pass it along. When things are said to a co-worker that simply aren’t true, rather than defending yourself, “get out of the game.”

Maybe some of you can relate!

The disciples weren’t immune to the drama game.

In my devotions this morning I read the story about the disciples arguing amongst themselves about who would be the greatest. The story is found in Mark 9, beginning at verse 33:

They came to Capernaum. When he was in the house, he asked, them, “What were you arguing about on the road?” But they kept quiet because on the way they had argued about who was the greatest. 

The disciples were steeped in drama as they argued about who was the greatest. Obviously this comparison game isn’t anything new! When Jesus questioned them about it, they were embarrassed and tried to hide it, but Jesus knew exactly what was going on. Jesus confronted them on it because he knew that that sort of drama would get in the way of the important work he had for them to do.

We can sit here and think, “Man, you had Jesus right there beside you and you were still so petty! What are you thinking. Who cares about who is first!” It seems so silly when we read it. At least it does to me.

But then the Holy Spirit hits me alongside the head and reminds me that I have Jesus right here beside me too, yet I very easily get caught up in the same sort of distractions. And that drama keeps me from his work too, just like it did the disciples.

The story goes on in verse 34:

Sitting down, Jesus called the Twelve and said, “If anyone wants to be first, he must be the very last, and the servant of all.” He took a little child and had him stand among them. Taking him in his arms, he said to them, “Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the one who sent me.” 

Jesus puts things in perspective for the disciples and for us as he shows them how to get out of the game. He actually changes the rules of the game and turns conventional wisdom upside down when he says that the last will be first and the first will be last.

The game Jesus invites us all to play is that of being a servant, loving the least among us, not worrying about being first or the best. He calls us to let go of our need for recognition and accolades and simply love, do the right thing, be kind.

If you find yourself immersed in drama in your life, I invite you to use the mantra “get out of the game” the next time you’re tempted to engage. It may take a bit of time before the temptation to dive in goes away, but with Jesus’ help, I know you can beat the odds and win the game!

Hugs and love,


Nashville recording artist Jill Miller recently released her 6th CD, “Twelve, the Freedom Soundtrack.” Jill has opened for the legendary Loretta Lynn and Brian Littrell (of the Backstreet Boys), performed a duet with NewSong, and sang the national anthem for President Bush and 11,000 people when he was in Sioux City. Jill has also performed at the legendary Bluebird Café in Nashville.

Jill is thrilled to announce that she was recently named one of the Voices of Women of Faith and will be serving the organization in a variety of ways, including worship leading, speaking, and writing. Jill is also a certified speaker, coach and teacher with the John Maxwell Team and has written the first ever theme song for the John Maxwell Team. On top of being a songwriter and speaker, Jill also writes a weekly blog and has written her first book, “Grace Finds Wings – A Journey in Song.” In her book, Jill shares the stories behind the songs on her CD, “Grace Finds Wings,” and finds ways to touch your heart and help you discover grace in things like infertility, adoption, divorce, financial struggles, marital infidelity and loss.

Jill and her husband, John, have four grown sons and live in the cornfields of Iowa with their two male rescue dogs. Jill needs a little estrogen in her life!



  1. Faithful Dieter March 15, 2018 at 8:08 pm - Reply

    Love this post. It’s so important to remember to be a servant of God first.

  2. Sophia Reed March 19, 2018 at 11:47 pm - Reply

    Yes I needed to read this. I have had to learn to distance myself from drama and things going on in the outside world so that I am not affected by it. I just keep my eyes on God and thats it.

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